Clearing the Clutter

I'm sure you've heard it said that everything is energy. Hard to deny it. I also believe that objects hold energy, similar to how humans do. For example, hanging on to the ex's hoodie? Not for me. I'm particular about what I allow into my space. If it doesn't feel good, it has to go. If it feels like clutter, it goes. If a human I no longer have a good connection with has owned it or given it to me, it goes.

If you haven't taken up this practice, I highly recommend it. It gives me such peace.

I do the same thing with my phone and my computer. No random, unused, past-life contacts or messages stay on my phone. Same for social media. If I'm not actively engaged with you, that chat history is dead to me. That friend request from someone I don't know? Immediately deleted. I just don't like the energy of old conversations. Every post, every comment, and every interaction online is an exchange of energy, and being mindful of who you have those exchanges with is important.

Humans inherently want connection. Some more than others. I think when we're younger, we are more willing to sacrifice authenticity for acceptance. The older I've gotten, the more I understand the value of my energy, my time, and my attention.

I've found that applying this mindset to every aspect of my life that I can control allows more space, and more openness, for the energies that I do want to engage with. It's a lighter feeling. If I go to a kitchen cabinet, for instance, and everything is askew and overcrowded then I am going to feel askew and overcrowded internally. If I look in my closet and see clothes I once liked that no longer fit, I'm going to be susceptible to negative self-beliefs. If I open a drawer and see a t-shirt belonging to an ex-boyfriend, I could fall into a rabbit hole of why it didn't work out and undo all of my healing. That one's never happened because I don't hold on to their belongings, but it seems plausible. Taking steps to control the baseline of my inner peace makes it easier to bear those moments when things come in to disrupt it.

Be mindful of your daily diet. What you read, watch, say, hear, eat, drink, and think about for too long. It's all energy and it can lift you up or bring you down depending on what you allow.

If you'd like to discuss this or need help getting started, I'm here for you.